Scene one, you have dared to spill your guts to your crush, and the saving grace is that you’ve been spared the hurt of getting turned down point blank. Now, she hasn’t rejected your feelings and that’s a good thing.
Sad thing is, she knows how you feel but hasn’t clearly spoken about herself yet. We get it, she is allowed to take her time and decide. And in the meantime the two of you continue to chat and hang out as usual.
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Scene two, you seriously like this girl you’ve been speaking to and have dropped enough hints to suggest it. You want to take things to the next stage, but can’t muster up the courage to act on it. So you have decided to let time do its magic while you stick around for things to heat up.
Only, things aren’t going as planned in either of the scenarios and you’re wondering why that might be. Sorry to break it to you, but while giving the benefit of the doubt is always an option, it’s also advisable to take the hint at times and understand that she may not be interested. Alternatively, and as is the case a lot of times, she might be keeping you around as a backup.
Here are 10 signs which will tell you she’s talking to you only because she is bored.
1. She Texts You During The Slowest Hours Of The Day |
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You know exactly what time of the day those are. That post-lunch slog-over period, the insomnia o’clock, the Wednesday vent hour and so on. If she only texts you super late at night because she can’t sleep (and is bored), take the hint already!
Now while she might expect you to respond to her texts every time and give you a cold shoulder when you don’t, you often notice her ignoring your texts and calls every other day. What’s worse, you have seen her online and still not received a response.
3. Her Texts Always Begin With ‘What’s Up’ |
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That’s literally become her most-used phrase and now it’s beginning to feel as if even this may not be a genuine enquiry. She never asks you about your day, or what you did during the weekend...but as sudden as her texts are, it always begins with a generic ‘what’s up’.
And just like that, while you are hoping for the next response or a follow-up text that would allow you to have a real conversation for once, she stops replying. End of discussion.
5. She’s Never The One To Make Plans |
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Regular calls and chats, as limited as they might be, still pacify you, but what’s also beginning to feel like a task is that you are the one who is always making plans to meet or hang out, while she never initiates any plans by herself.
And even the plans she agrees to, she bails out at the last minute or cancels them frequently never bothering to take that ‘rain check’.
7. She Often Sends You ‘Be My Saviour’ Texts |
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You almost always hear from her when she needs any sort of ‘help’. Whether or not she calls you for important things, but she always gives you a chance to be her ‘saviour’, if not anything else. True, it might be because she trusts you, but is help the only thing she can trust you with? Then, perhaps you need to reconsider.
RED FLAG. She doesn’t have your number saved, deleted it or maybe never backed it up - either and all of those are major giveaways. Abort Operation Dream Date immediately!
9. The Hot ‘n’ Cold Vibe Is For Real |
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You know, she’s there now and gone for days at times. No texts, no calls. And then suddenly one day, she’ll give you a ring like nothing happened at all. Take the hint, she doesn’t miss you, she’s calling because she had nothing better to do.
Well, let us know if you’ve noticed any of these signs before.